Q: At our last family gathering, some of our silver went missing. We are pretty sure our nephew pocketed it, but we don’t have hard proof. Should we say something to him or his parents? What about the next holiday get-together? 

If you have a strong suspicion regarding your nephew, you must include his parents if you decide to address the situation. Keep in mind that this will be a difficult conversation and may cause resentment. 

If you are not certain about your suspicion, discuss the situation with all the family members who were present. As hosts, you and your property have the right to be respected. Stick to the facts and don’t give anyone the opportunity to blame another. Remember Exodus 23:1: “You shall not spread a false report … [or] … join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness.”

Finally, it may be helpful for future family gatherings to reserve your silver and use more modest flatware.